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Originally Posted by tittietwister  After my wife and her husband left to play in a separate room she asks me if its OK if we don't play. I wasn't going to force her so I said OK and we did the dishes together from dinner (that's right - dishes). Then she tells me not to tell her husband or my wife that we didn't do anything. I told my wife anyway. |
If that were me, i would have gone straight in and joined the fun with my wife... not that i have a problem with Mrs phoenix getting more "attention" than i do (our first encounters have basically been her filling out her girl on girl cravings, with me as a 3rd wheel, or her getting male attention while she pleasures me.)
last party she was hooking up with a guy in the spa (we were chatting to that couple all night), and i was fine with not recieving attention from the fem of the couple, as the situation lent itself to more MfM or FMF (long story, F in the couples first time, and had some boundaries to make herself comfortable. as newb's ourselves we understood completely. still had an awesome night).
but i was fine with that BECAUSE we knew the boundaries and expectations from the start. if they had have proposed a full swap and then told us that the Fem wasn't comfortable with penetration from another guy, AFTER he started with Mrs Phoenix, then "full swap" isn't full swap anymore, and we (mrs phoenix hates seeing me left out) would have made the best of the situation, and changed OUR rules to suit. and i certainly wouldn't have been doing the dishes.
in going in to play with your wife, your not "telling on the other wife", but your making it clear that your not going to LIE to your wife to cover the other couples communication problems... the most important thing to us is OPEN COMMUNICATION. and we're not going to compromise that, or the trust that comes along with it, for the sake of another couple.