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Originally Posted by NumbskullsX2  Why do you single guys always use "discriminate" like it's a bad word or something? We couples discriminate all the time, and so do you.
Just this morning, I did a little shopping. I "discriminated" against some bananas that were overly-ripe, some blueberries that were over-priced, and some onion-rolls, because neither of us likes onion-rolls.
Is that "discrimination," or smart shopping??" |
The modern english language does not have enough words. Too many times the meaning of the word depends on its context, and whether a word is used positively or negatively is based on the intent of the writer.
Discrimination the way you used it means to make a decision based on a set of established and measurable criteria. The other way discrimination is used is to make an arbitrary decision based on an assumed stereotype without gathering any measurable facts.
I don't get down on couples that don't want to meet me...thats their choice. I don't bitch about clubs that say no single males under no circumstances...that is the owner's choice of who he wants to cater to. I do have a problem that says someone is not swinger because they don't do the things they do (see what I mean about not enough words?). As in the rest of life, once you drop the stereotypes you have to actually judge people as individuals instead of a faceless part of a vast group. That is where some single men get the idea they are being discriminated against. To them its not a matter of you personally not wanting to be with a single man, but of you not seeing them as an individual. That part is their problem, unless you have given them a reason to think otherwise.
About not being there to sleep with someone else's wife:
There are easier ways to sleep with someone else's wife than to pay $30 to $50 a month to put up an ad that most probably will be ignored, or to go to a club where three out of four people, couple or single female, will smile and walk away before you get past hello. There are, however, benefits to swinging that don't exist when you help some woman cheat on her husband...like being able to openly flirt with her and maybe even become friends.
but thats just my observation. Your point of view is going to be decided by what YOU want out of swinging and how you think other people will respond. If you don't ask, you won't know. And if you refuse to believe the reasons they give, thats on you.