[JustAskJulie]

"testing the newbie" is pretty much what I would call it.

For the record we were in a large group party setting and said person is half of a couple that I have known and played with in the past. This was the first time I had seen them in years and the first time Pet had met them (earlier in the day).

The guy had kissed on me a few times during the course of the day and it was no big deal for anyone. At the time the situation occured that invoked this post, I had no idea that he was doing it to "fuck with" anyone. Maybe I'm stupid or blind, I don't know. I was looking at Pet during this to see how he was reacting and the look I got back was that of "it's no big deal". A few minutes later after he had stopped he looked at Pet and said "you know I was just doing that to fuck with you right?".

Honestly, THAT pissed me off, not only that he was doing that to Pet because it left me as a pawn feeling used in the situation. These are people who have been in the lifestyle for years, so what is their reason or need to do this?

Had I realized the reason behind the actions I would have stopped the actions before they started, or had I known that Pet was in any way uncomfortable I would have stopped things and it would have been no problem for me to do so. So how have we chosen to respond to them now? Like nothing happened with with no allowance for any further physical contact. Any chance they had of doing anything with me again is now gone.