The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Discrimination against single males

two42lovers · 05-16-2008, 01:32 PM

Not referring to you, Bama - wasn't writing to anyone in particular, just writing in general to everyone who says they don't play with whole categories of people because of "bad apples". My question is about the whole idea that people decide not to play with solo guys (or any broad category of people) because of specific bad experiences. Isn't this the definition of stereotyping?

It's a little bit like a gold prospector/miner giving up on looking for gold because after several attempts he had failed to find gold. Isn't that circular reasoning? (i.e. the empty holes have spoiled it for all the good gold mines.) How exactly does that work? -lol!

Good, fun, respectful solo guys have about as much in common with the "bad apples" as gold mines have with empty holes. If you are a skilled prospector looking for gold, how does encountering "empty holes" put you off from looking for gold? If you are a experienced miner, you will recognize an empty hole for what it is very quickly.

If you choose not to be a gold miner, isn't it really more like you don't care for gold so much, and would rather look for diamonds? (i.e. you don't care about solo guys and would rather look for couples.) If this is the case, why the talk about bad apples spoiling it for you?

05-16-2008, 01:32 PM	#7 (permalink)
two42lovers Luv seeing friends quiver Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 298 Location: California central coast Status: couple SLS Name:two42lovers Blog Entries: 2	Re: No single males? Why not?? Not referring to you, Bama - wasn't writing to anyone in particular, just writing in general to everyone who says they don't play with whole categories of people because of "bad apples". My question is about the whole idea that people decide not to play with solo guys (or any broad category of people) because of specific bad experiences. Isn't this the definition of stereotyping? It's a little bit like a gold prospector/miner giving up on looking for gold because after several attempts he had failed to find gold. Isn't that circular reasoning? (i.e. the empty holes have spoiled it for all the good gold mines.) How exactly does that work? -lol! Good, fun, respectful solo guys have about as much in common with the "bad apples" as gold mines have with empty holes. If you are a skilled prospector looking for gold, how does encountering "empty holes" put you off from looking for gold? If you are a experienced miner, you will recognize an empty hole for what it is very quickly. If you choose not to be a gold miner, isn't it really more like you don't care for gold so much, and would rather look for diamonds? (i.e. you don't care about solo guys and would rather look for couples.) If this is the case, why the talk about bad apples spoiling it for you? __________________ Tell the people you love how you feel, and do what your heart tells you.