Hey ..thanks for that insite.. I have thought that maybe she is insecure and is overcompensating...while logically I understand that ..she still annoys me.
One night when we were all together and she had a few drinks, we did talk a little and she said to me that "It wasn't easy for her" and from other things she has said in passing, I can totally agree that she probably is insecure and has other issues.
Also after that night we talked I thought we had gotten a little closer but the next time I saw her and every time after that, she still is distant and hard to talk to.
One of these days we will sit and have a heart to heart. The problem is that I don't have much good to say and am not good at saying hurtful or negative things to someones face. I have to come up with a nice way to say "i just don't like you"
Some day I am hoping I can come to place where I feel comfortable enough for us all to play together and not have issues or bad feelings and just enjoy each other sexually and our friendship. That would be the easiest senerio.
Reading this board and all the great advice and thoughts and opinons really do help me in that direction.