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Originally Posted by bellady  Thanks
I have told the hubby that I don't want to play with them and we have told them.... I am looking for ways just to deal with her when we are together, when I can't advoid it! How not to let her personality get to me. And I was just venting a little....  |
I know it's been a while but I just realized no one really addressed this question.
One thought I had while rereading your description of her actions is that she may very well be a bit insecure and the actions you are seeing are her over-compensating for that insecurity. What she isn't realizing is that she is shooting herself in the foot because her actions are only pushing people away (the opposite effect of what she wants). Perhaps honesty may be a good tact with her. Tell her what you like about her then point out that there are some things that really trouble you (like the innuendos with the neices boyfriend). We can all learn from each other so try to focus on the positive attributes that you can find within her and find ways to acknowledge those and get her to display them more often.