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Originally Posted by Playful1  I have to say I find it a bit offensive that you seem to assume that there must be something wrong with a person who truly does choose to stay single. Being in a relationship is not the only healthy option out there. Just as being married isn't for everyone, being in a relationship isn't for everyone either. I happen to choose to be single because there is nothing I can get form having a bf that I am not currently getting somewhere in my life. Honestly, I think if society would lay off making it seem like being in a relationship was the only truly healthy thing and if you're not there must be something wrong, then more people, particularly women I think, would choose to single, either for good or for a lot longer than they do now. |
I didn't say that there is anything wrong with someone being single, I said that there is a reason. sometimes the reason is perfectly valid and sometimes it isn't but because someone is single does not mean they are defective. I was single untill I was in my early 30s and people treated me diferently and I wasn't even in the lifesyle at the time. People treated me with caution and suspicion in the vanilla world. A lot of people are independant and feel that they have it all and then when they meet the right person whammo they realize they want more. I am an old fashioned romantic guy and my beliefs are pretty ingrained. I think the vast vast majority of people want to have someone to have and to hold and I think that the vast majority of people who swear they are perfectly happy being single by choice are just rationalizing away their current plight. I don't think that more people should be single. I think more people should admit to themselves that they want to have their own special someone in their lives and give themselves permission to seek that someone and be open to the possibilities rather than trying to convince themselves that they really want to be single. If you say you are single by choice I accept your choice and respect your decision. My challenge to you though is to search your true feelings and be true to yourself. If you truly want to lead your own life as a single at this time then do so and enjoy it to the fullest. However if that changes and deep down you do want someone to come home to and hold at the end of the day then accept that within yourself and pursue that to the best of your abilities.