Hello Magemouse and
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As you can probably tell, being a single man in swinging is not an easy task. It CAN be done.
Some suggestions for you are...
Never contact a couple unless they specifically state in their profile that they play with single men.
Be yourself, no one likes a fake.
Change the pictures on your SLS profile...a smile will go a long ways.
You are in an area the has a GREAT club that does allow single men to attend. If you go to a club, follow their rules and allow the regulars to get to know you. Never be pushy.
Join a yahoo group or some of the groups on SLS that allow single men. Some of these groups throw regular house parties that singles are invited to. Singles tend to have better luck at house parties than at a club.
Realize that there are a LOT of couples who do enjoy single men but, there will always be those that think single men have no place in swinging. Right or wrong it's the way things are and something you will have to learn to deal with.
Always show respect.
You've found the best place to gather information on swinging there is. Read over as many of the threads/post in the Single & Swinging forum as you can and if you have any questions, never hesitate to ask.
Teresa