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sexychoclit · 05-10-2008, 08:36 PM

I have told people who are close to me and my family knows. It's not easy but I find that most people don't talk about it. One of my male friends ask me if I am still dating the couple and my best friend and sister-in-law ask about them, but they have met them so they are considered part of the family.

I don't know if I would've come out on national television. I saw the episode of "Oprah" and found that it didn't show the real side of lifestyle couples. There was only one woman who I found attractive and I do believe that she was a preacher. I think that the episode made swingers look like a bunch of desperate people who can't get laid any other way. I don't even think they had any single females on there (can't remember that part anyway).

If you live in a large city then you don't have to worry about it. My only issue is that at my last job a woman was fired after she came out and said she was a swinger. Jobs are too hard to come by these days. If you own your own business and make enough to support yourself then it may not matter. But for most people, coming out would be a big deal and until people at large become more comfortable with swingers there could be a price to pay to come out.

Also, what happens to the children (under 18) of people who come out to their community? I would think that they suffer in some kind of way. Kids can be cruel and so the children should be protected. If I were a parent I don't think that I would be so quick to reveal what goes on behind my closed doors.

05-10-2008, 08:36 PM	#22 (permalink)
sexychoclit Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 75 Location: South Carolina Status: Single Female	Re: Being Outed I have told people who are close to me and my family knows. It's not easy but I find that most people don't talk about it. One of my male friends ask me if I am still dating the couple and my best friend and sister-in-law ask about them, but they have met them so they are considered part of the family. I don't know if I would've come out on national television. I saw the episode of "Oprah" and found that it didn't show the real side of lifestyle couples. There was only one woman who I found attractive and I do believe that she was a preacher. I think that the episode made swingers look like a bunch of desperate people who can't get laid any other way. I don't even think they had any single females on there (can't remember that part anyway). If you live in a large city then you don't have to worry about it. My only issue is that at my last job a woman was fired after she came out and said she was a swinger. Jobs are too hard to come by these days. If you own your own business and make enough to support yourself then it may not matter. But for most people, coming out would be a big deal and until people at large become more comfortable with swingers there could be a price to pay to come out. Also, what happens to the children (under 18) of people who come out to their community? I would think that they suffer in some kind of way. Kids can be cruel and so the children should be protected. If I were a parent I don't think that I would be so quick to reveal what goes on behind my closed doors.