[two4youinswva]

I am sure this varies state to state.

Now, this is what I can tell you about the rules here in VA as I understand it:

The clubs here are generally off-premises. I am not aware of an on-premises club in the state. There could be one, I just don't know about it if there is.
So, what follows is the off-premises rules:

The way to qualify for an ABC (alcohol) license is to submit a request for a single use "banquet" license. Private clubs are allowed to do this.
One of the requirements to obtain the license is to have every member's name, address, age, etc. on file. You don't have to turn it in, but they can request to see the list for verification purposes. The club we regularly attend maintains this file, but I believe they only keep hard copies, just because of the privacy factor involved.
I don't think a license number is required, but a valid ID must be checked and verified by the host/hostess. I could be wrong about this though. It's been a while.

Oh, and to drift slightly off topic, if you serve alcohol in VA, then there can be no nudity (I know, bummer dude).

Virginia is pretty tight on this stuff. If we cross the border into NC, it's a lot more lax in some ways.