[TheDeal]

I think the pace of life is definitely a reason for people not "having the time" to get past a sexual acquaintance type of relationship. After my wife and I bought our first house, we met a couple that was our age, and they lived directly across the street. We all became very good friends. Four years later, we were all ready for larger houses and ended up moving about 5 miles from each other. I know it's only a few miles, but when you consider the ease of walking out your door and across the street for a chat and some beer... They had another child and we didn't see them very often for almost two years. Of course, when we finally did start hanging out again, we all became lovers. go figure. Still wished we lived across the street! REALLY!

I say that because once you move into a deeper more romantic type relationship; e-mail, phone and chat are not always the best ways to resolve issues that arise. You need face to face and that is not always possible, even if it's only five miles to the others home. Typically, when you get to a certain level of a relationship, you are at their home or yours, or you have even moved in with them. Our issues would have been resolved easier and quicker had we just lived next door. Just some things to consider if ya really want to go poly.

G