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tittietwister · 05-03-2008, 01:07 PM

Interestingly, we recently met a couple where the man had been in the lifestyle for 30 years. He said real friendships that extended to play was the norm "in the old days" when the pace of life was slower and less demands were made or expected in daily lives.

Last night we met a couple from Spokane Washington who made similar statements contrasting the lifestyle in and outside large metro areas so perhaps the poly minded folks need to look for less densely populated areas.

I remember growing up in a small town where your parent's friends also acted as parents-by-proxy when they saw you misbehaving. They could do that because of the bond of friendship they had with your parents and you didn't challenge it. If those parent friends were also swingers I'm sure they would have had the kind of relationship we and Javelin aspire to.

We don't have the answers but are growing tired of the coldness, shallowness and bedpost-notching character of the lifestyle in our immediate area which is also reflected in social relationships in general in this area. We look forward to when we can do some traveling and do our own comparison of the lifestyle in other parts the country.

05-03-2008, 01:07 PM	#12 (permalink)
tittietwister Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 143 Location: Not at Swingers Board Status: Couple	Re: Poly vs swinging Interestingly, we recently met a couple where the man had been in the lifestyle for 30 years. He said real friendships that extended to play was the norm "in the old days" when the pace of life was slower and less demands were made or expected in daily lives. Last night we met a couple from Spokane Washington who made similar statements contrasting the lifestyle in and outside large metro areas so perhaps the poly minded folks need to look for less densely populated areas. I remember growing up in a small town where your parent's friends also acted as parents-by-proxy when they saw you misbehaving. They could do that because of the bond of friendship they had with your parents and you didn't challenge it. If those parent friends were also swingers I'm sure they would have had the kind of relationship we and Javelin aspire to. We don't have the answers but are growing tired of the coldness, shallowness and bedpost-notching character of the lifestyle in our immediate area which is also reflected in social relationships in general in this area. We look forward to when we can do some traveling and do our own comparison of the lifestyle in other parts the country.