 Re: Poly vs swinging
Ah ha, there you have it. I believe there is a great majority of swingers out there that are looking for steady, close friends to explore a wilder sexual side. A type of relationship where you trust and like the others to the point of complete comfort. Having it be exclusive and emotional does tip it into the poly world, but really it is more exclusive swinging than true all out poly.
We found just such a relationship with our best friends (pre-swinging). It's been very difficult however, finding a balance or the line between friendship and love. It's also difficult to have everyone at the same level. Two or three send e-mails, communicate, one does not, or one or more is really into separate play than some others. This is probably why swingers prefer nothing past sex, but hey, life is drama. Going through difficult things with others is one way to grow understanding of oneself.
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