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Originally Posted by wunzrtwice  ... To be fair, couples enjoying the lifestyle together will enjoy more collective success than single individuals. There is one superior benefit to couples, both of whom are genuine swingers... each will be pleased and happy that the partner finds pleasure, joy, and fulfillment in a shared and participating experience. That doesn't happen with singles, open marriage or just singles. I'm in the 60 plus range and my opinion comes from observation over the years. |
And being one in an open marriage, my opinion and experience is that we are both happy and fulfilled when we do swinging like activities or when we do open marriage like activities. We don't need to be in the same room being "genuine swingers" to find our own benefits which are superior only to ourselves, and not as a ranking system with others. I'm sure sure the other groups mentioned find that their own personal experience offers great and superior benefits... to them. It's great when swinging works out. There are definitely benefits to be had. But when we do our open marriage thing, it too is good. The two aren't compared and ranked and neither are the benefits found in each situation. Sharing via swinging as a couple with other couples doesn't automatically the make the benefits "superior".
Why can't we all just do whatever it is that makes us as couples and individuals happy and fulfilled, and accept that others might find that same happiness and fulfillment by a different method WITHOUT labeling one the resulting experience or benefit as "superior" to another?