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Originally Posted by geminigrey  I really don't know there is technically a difference between an open marriage and swinging. I'd say it is that each of the spouse play separately, but I've seen people talking about swinging solo as well as with their spouse, so I'm not sure. |
I don't understand how did this thread get to this point. Deciding what is swinging or not, is not the issue here. Nor is, if this will work for everyone.
Swinging, technically is having sex with people other than your partner. Be it married partner, long or short term committed relationship, or even girlfriend/ boyfriend. What ever, some form of relationship exists. Thats swinging in my definition. Having sex with other people ! period.
Open marriage, playing separate (with or without permission), or playing together. And all the scenarios that could possibly happen, are what you need to decide. You can see that there are many aspects and scenarios that happen in different ways with many of us here. Some work for others that would not work for all.
Its between you and your wife on how you pursue things. What rules or boundaries you may establish is the main importance. Is your relationship good enough to get enjoyment out of sex with other people, in a positive way no matter how you go about it ? Its not about us, or what we feel by definition.
Its about you two together.
What will happen now ?
How do each of you feel about each other having sex with someone els ?
Where do you see your relationship after having sex with other people ?
These are the things Mrs.fun and I talked about as much as what, by definition, everything was. We kept our relationship on top. Sex second. Other people third. We still do, and we are still swinging.