 Re: Poly vs swinging
Nice post, javeln; thoughtful replies too.
We are presently in the same dilemma. We were the ones who disappeared. An opportunity came along to head off to the Caribbean for a few years, which we leapt at. Our friends were back on the mainland, and were unable to make the trek over, and we didn’t come back for quite some time, so the relationship dissolved. We did make it back on two occasions, only one of which was at time when we could get together, again. Just too much time, and too many miles. Clearly our fault. We moved. Life happened.
Now that we have returned, they have moved on. Very understandable. We are learning just how unique our friendship with them was within the swinging community. Swingers/Couples who are looking for what you are looking for javeln seem to us to be rare. Part of the rarity is the fact that many have probably already found the compatible couple and have removed themselves from any of the sites where we go looking for friendships. So it is just those of us who have not yet found that “perfect” compatible couple or just happen to be between couples. Like anything rare, it is very, very hard to find. We guess that is what make it rare.
If it were easy, would you really appreciate it as much? |