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Originally Posted by VegasLee  As soon as someone says " don't tell my spouse" all party time is over with that person.
We don't hide things between each other and I won't be part of that for others either. |
I agree. We've broken-off playtime relationships with couples when we've discovered that they are not completely honest with each other. Not so much for sex acts performed that break the rules (because if we've come across that we haven't been aware of it), but because we find out that each one is cheating on the other and other such scenarios.
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Originally Posted by ecoupleca Not to generalize of course but there have been times that women during the course of a playful evening decide that they are stepping out of the box, caught in the moment, feeling exceptionally free, take it to a place they have been thinking of going or whatever the reason, a night to break the rules. |
I've had women go beyond what they normally do with me, like swallowing or anal when they previously have admittedly not been into it before. I think swinging allows a woman to be very sexual, something society doesn't allow of women, and it is new things being discovered. Did they have a rule against it? I don't know, they didn't say. But I'll find out afterward when they say things like "That's the first time I've had anal." or "I don't swallow very often." I've seen Mrs. WS caught-up in the moment and do things that she hasn't done with me before. Not big things since we've covered all the big ones together. Or things that sometimes she is into at home that she is all about with a lover.
I think partly it is the whole naughtiness of the situation
and the fact that it's okay to be naughty and it just rolls from there. It's also partly that she wants to be memorable to her new partner so she goes the extra pornstar mile, so to speak. Do I mind? Nah. As far as he knows she does that every time we have sex and he thinks I'm the luckiest guy in the world.
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Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple We used to have several rules in the beginning.
I think we got them boiled down to two.
Ask.
No means no.
So it now boils down to something like this "Can I?" "Do you Wanna?" "Yes or no baby?" |
We're the same way. When we first started we had a laundry list of rules, but as we became more comfortable in the lifestyle we pretty much have thrown all of them out the window except a core few. At first we retained certain sex acts just for us, but eventually we discovered (like so many else do) that it's not the sex that makes us as close as we are, the sex is good together because we are that close outside of the bedroom. So our "no anal, no swallowing, no this, not that" rules were thrown-out. Keeps it simple and it avoids hurt feelings.