The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Her rules changed when her husband wasn't in the room

realcplub2 · 04-25-2008, 05:34 PM

Women and Rules...

the first rule is, the Women make the rules..

the second rule is, see rule #1

We have been in situations similar where rules were discussed, and then things changed in the midst of play.

For us, the first rule and only rule we ever insist on is same room play only.. and its a deal breaker. We can understand folks that arent into that.. to each there own..

Beyond that, the moment there is any thing that is to be kept secret, You are asked to keep secret, whatever... sorry

We lived thru two seprate instances, where the first was attempt by both other people to talk to each of us without the other spouses knowing.. Him trying to talk to my wife, and her wanting to do more than talk, with me..

Sorry didnt work, we talk.. told each other everything, showed the chat sessions, everything.. that was the end of a great friendship.. the first couple we were ever intimate with..

a shame

The second was a weirder one, He was screwing around, and we sort of found out, before his wife did.. and backed away from the situation. Again, another shame.

Ultimately, there is one thing that makes this lifestyle work, Honesty..

If you can be honest with yourself, honest with your partner, and honest with those you play with, you will be further ahead.

Keeping secrets for a swinging playmate, regardless of what its about, is the quickest way to cause problems.

04-25-2008, 05:34 PM	#11 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 806 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:putnamcocpl	Re: Rules?? Women and Rules... the first rule is, the Women make the rules.. the second rule is, see rule #1 We have been in situations similar where rules were discussed, and then things changed in the midst of play. For us, the first rule and only rule we ever insist on is same room play only.. and its a deal breaker. We can understand folks that arent into that.. to each there own.. Beyond that, the moment there is any thing that is to be kept secret, You are asked to keep secret, whatever... sorry We lived thru two seprate instances, where the first was attempt by both other people to talk to each of us without the other spouses knowing.. Him trying to talk to my wife, and her wanting to do more than talk, with me.. Sorry didnt work, we talk.. told each other everything, showed the chat sessions, everything.. that was the end of a great friendship.. the first couple we were ever intimate with.. a shame The second was a weirder one, He was screwing around, and we sort of found out, before his wife did.. and backed away from the situation. Again, another shame. Ultimately, there is one thing that makes this lifestyle work, Honesty.. If you can be honest with yourself, honest with your partner, and honest with those you play with, you will be further ahead. Keeping secrets for a swinging playmate, regardless of what its about, is the quickest way to cause problems.