[JustAskJulie]

You can't base things on one experience... if we did that we would be exactly where you are. Our story is almost identical... we played with each other at the club until we met a couple that we thought we hit it off with and decided to go to a private room and do a soft-swap. Things went ok, although I could tell hubby wasn't totally into it. Later I discovered that he was less than impressed with what was under the multiple layers of undergarments and that turned him off. Other things we found out later turned us off even more TO THEM, but not to the idea of swinging again. It just made us change the way we look at potential playmates. There's a little more examination and thought about what they may look like without their clothes on.

Looking at your second post it sounds like the thing that killed it was a lack of foreplay so you just have to look at things and figure out how you can beat that the next time. In a club situation there are so many things that SHOULD be part of foreplay.. flirting throughout the night, dancing, lap dancing, etc. And when you get to the room there is no reason that it should jump straight to sex without any additional foreplay.