Unfortunately this is one of the risks that all of us that are active in the lifestyle take. You can take every possible precaution, including testing, but nothing will protect you %100. We applaud 50sLady for her openness and honesty about her situation. We also respect your decision to not participate in the lifestyle any longer, but there are sites for swingers with herpes if you change your mind. We did a search and came up with this one,
HSwing.com - A Sex and Swingers Community for Adults with Herpes
If everyone knew the exact number of swingers with herpes there would probably be a lot less people in the lifestyle.