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our story goes like this. j (her 61) and i (d 64) have been married almost 6 yrs. j has been fighting cancer on and off since 1997. she got breast metastis bone cancer in 03 around the time we started thinking about swinging. we met a few couples, but due to other factors (lived in seperate states for a yr or so due to work) we never were able to hook up with another couple. after getting the bone cancer with all the meds and the constant pain from it she lost almost all her desires to have sex (was a SUPER HORNEY LADY BEFORE) which i understand. well a few wks back i got a sore on my foreskin NEVER EVER BEFORE HAD ONE. WE WENT TO DR AND HE DID BLOOD WORK J IS HSV 2 AND I AM HSV 1. that was a totally shock as to where it came from. dr said it can lay dorment for yrs then show up one day. he also said as someone stated previous that a VERY HIGH presentage of folks have it, and may not know. i have gave blood on and off over the yrs, and would have thought they would have checked and got back with me if it had showed up. j has had to have numerous blood transfusions due the the bone cancer, and some folks say it could have come from that, and some say due to it being in the nervous system it can't be passed on thru blood. when we learned that we had it i wanted to tell all our friends (not swinging) that we had it, but dr said to keep my mouth shut about it. we have a couple of couples that r swingers one just moved here and the other lives in another state and will locate here. i went by dr office yest and got a copy of the blood tests and plan to show the couple that just moved here the tests results, and let them know we would love to be friends as we r now, but not swinging friends if they want to be. i plan on leaving it entirly up to them with no hard feeling if they say no thanks. going to do the same with the other couple when they come back down again. sorry for being so long, but just wanted folks to know u can get herpes and not swing at all. we did and it SUCKS. thanks, d&j