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Originally Posted by rpu3  Are there numbers or case studies or something in what you've read/studied that show a difference in marriage success rates between "swingers" and "open marriage participants"? |
No of course not, at least not with a realistic chart that can be trusted, few people would be honest about it. That doesn't mean I can't see how things seem to work, and being a swinger I get to see more of this than the average Joe.
Every couple we know since we started swinging are still together. Every one. Now I know of swinging couples that have separated or divorced via message boards and the like, but of the people we have met, they are all still couples, married, and a few have added kids since then.
Every open marriage couple I've known has divorced. Every one. Some were people we met while swinging, and two others were non-swingers I knew personally well enough to find this kind of information out of.
This if of course not scientific, but when I couple it with my knowledge of human mating systems as part of my study of evolutionary biology, I feel very confident in these conclusions. Were I some young PhD student I'd be making a post here to test this hypothesis, and then not ever coming back with the data
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I've seen swinging used more often by those in a troubled marriage as a last resort than open marriage. That's just my observation from participating in the open marriage/consensual non-monogamy communities, as well as participating in swinging. There seem to be far more swingers than open marriage participants, so I'm curious as to the numbers or where the perception arises as to the reasons or failures of an open marriage.
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I think as a swinger I've read/seen this more as well. In the non-swinger world though I think the "open marriage" is more common as things are so broken they want to do their own thing. Normally someone already found someone they are attracted too, or they just want to feel better about cheating. This is what I think is going on in the OP, at least potentially.