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Originally Posted by Bama0468  Swinging- Both partners know that the other is doing it and when
Open Marriage - one of the partners does not know the other is doing but they have permission to do whom ever they please, when ever they please AND they may or may not tell the partner when they have done some thing. |
I can see some open marriages operating like this. I consider myself in an open marriage, and we engage in swinging on occasion. However, when I go about my open marriage activities, I don't do whomever, whenever and I don't NOT tell my spouse. I may not ask permission per se, but my spouse's opinion and comfort are very important to me and as such, I keep him in the loop at all times.
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Originally Posted by Wasted2008 I disagree with the take on a open marriage. An open marriage can be done with the same rules as swinging. I made sure my husband always knew when I was going out who and where I thought I was going and gave him a way to always contact me. I also would send him a text while I was out letting him know when I would be home. |
I do what you do/did. And I too disagree the one take on an open marriage.
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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie I think trying to define open marriage is going to be like trying to define swinging. Everyone's opinion is going to be different. Can someone who doesn't consider themselves in an open marriage even really attempt to define what one is? |
I agree that trying to define open marriage is going to be no different than any of the threads regarding a definition of swinging.
While I find opinion interesting as to how others perceive an open marriage, if they aren't in one or have not participated in one, I'm hard pressed to do anything but put out a counterpoint based on my actual participation in an open marriage.
Just like in swinging, there are variations; some are some that might operate from Bama's definition, but there are just as many that would be put off by his definition. I am one of those. Just like in swinging, open marriage participants have established their own boundaries with each other, and with those whom they see and those arrangements can take any number of shapes.
Defining an open marriage makes as much sense as creating a hard and fast definition of swinging. It makes for interesting debate and long threads, but it really doesn't go anywhere; we all define ourselves as we see fit.