[wasted2008]

We are new to the scene as well. More broke in now then what we were thou. We took our marriage open and had the same issues. I could easily have play dates and hubby could not. The swingers lifestyle has allowed us to both play together and play apart. The couples aspect can be fun if theres a mutual attraction. Some couples will allow one on one play with the others from diffrent couples. This is how its working for us. We recently attended a party and each played alone the whole partty. It worked for us. I classify myself as more of a swinger then having an open marriage as its just concensual sex among our group of friends. Yes I still have one that I see on the side, but for the most part we play are playing with couples.