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Originally Posted by Pepper & Drew  If a couple agrees to open marriage while their marriage is a healthy one, I think it can work. If your marriage is in a fragile place and you decide to have an open marriage (or swing, for that matter) you are either prolonging the inevitable, or speeding it up.
Pepper |
I think you're right, actually, not just in my case, but in general. You have to start with a healthy relationship between you and your spouse before you can add any other elements to it, whether it's playing together or seperate.
I'm glad I came on here and started talking to you guys, because it's gotten my brain juices flowing. I want to work on what we already have before or if we chose to expand on it. Looking elsewhere for attention isn't going to make things any better on the home front, but it can hurt.
I'm still not saying that open marriage/polyamory/swinging is a bad thing, but if the foundation is crumbling, the house can't stand, whether it's a Ranch or a Tudor.
