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Originally Posted by LikeMinds321  .
From what I've gathered from your posts thus far, I wonder if you're trying to break rejection down so that you can suggest what swingers need to do to change or improve themselves in order to avoid being rejected. Here is the problem I have with that idea. I have seen way too many swingers try to become something they are not in hopes of making themselves more unrejectable to others. This can work against them in that they actually lessen their self-esteem, rather than becoming more comfortable with themselves as a swinger they are constantly striving to improve themselves and become someone that isn't themselves. I see people trying to do one more thing better to make people want them more: boob jobs, losing weight, tummy tucks, hair removal, facial plastic surgery, hair color, building their bods into muscle, wearing clothes that they look stupid in but they think others will like them better in them (yet they look so uncomfortable wearing them) and I could go on.
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If you are a golfer wouldn't you periodically do a little self evaluation and assessment to try and improve your swing? If you are a fisherman wouldn't you keep abreast of the latest and greatest research on fishery management and fish biology and behaviour to try and learn a few more tricks to increase your success? Why is this any different? If you could learn from other peoples experiences to help improve your success wouldn't you do it?
There is no training manual out there. We are all just following our gut instincts and flying by the seat of our pants. My gut instincts may be wrong. If I can learn some cold hard facts from some digging around maybe I can learn a few things that will decrease the number of times I fail and increase the number of times I succeed. If others benifit from that as well all the better. This is area where the more success there is for everyone, everybody else benifits as well.