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Originally Posted by good times  Frankly, I think you are on an impossible mission here. The fact is, I have never rejected anyone that they could have reasonably done something different that would have made me not reject them. When we meet someone, we either find them physically attractive, or we don't. Not only is it highly unlikely that they could have done something different that would have changed our mind, but even if they could have, their is no way they could know that ahead of time. The reason for that is that their is just no universal standard for what makes one person attractive to any given other person. In other words, what I find hot, the next guy might not.
So, while I could list here a bunch of reasons why I have turned nice people down for sex, the fact of the matter is, they just didn't turn me on. As a friend of mine likes to say, some people just aren't in your strike zone. The reasons they are not in your strike zone doesn't matter. Just because they aren't in my strike zone, doesn't mean they won't be a perfect match for the next guy.
Actually, I think if someone tried to act in a way as to reduce the amount of rejections he would get, he would actually get rejected more often than if he would just be himself. Nothing is a bigger turn-off to most folks than somebody trying to be something they are not. |
My mission is not to eliminate all rejection from the earth. I agree that is not possible. My interest is to learn more about why couples reject other couples. That is possible.
The truth is there are some universally accepted standards of beauty that are crosscultural and existed since there has been depictions of the human body and those standards have supported by scientific research, ie female waist to hip ratio of =< 0.7, clear skin, nice hair etc etc. So things are universal and some things are preference. Some women will prefer George Clooney and some will prefer Brad Pitt (both of which have been rejected at various times) but noone will argue that they are both attractive men.
Perhaps the same is true of why couples are rejected too. Perhaps there are universal standards of unattractiveness and behaviours that if people could become aware of they will be better prepared to avoid.