[robnsusan60]

rpu3 ... I'll hold your coat while you're on the soapbox, you are not alone. What is swinging and what is not is a never ending debate on here but in my mind it's rather simple, swinging is consentual sexual play with others. And to head off an 'others definition' tangent, I'll just say ...you all know what I mean.

We did mostly couples, some mfm, and she had an ongoing relationship with a b/f for years. He was a platonic friend of hers long before we ever met and her first encounter with him was after we'd been married almost 10 years. It was something she had 'on the side' with no involvement on my part in their activities, and yet it was something her and I shared and delighted in. I didn't pursue like activities, that just wasn't in our realm of interest. Can that be called an open marriage by definition or by opinion? Kinda some degree?

I believe the important thing is that it's something we were both comfortable with and, equally importantly, it wasn't to fix anything. And, by the way, explaining a venture into the lifestyle because of 'boredom' or to 'spice things up' are interchangeable motives by and large, just a matter of degree and depending on how one expresses it. I mention that to differentiate between those motives and trying to fix something that's broke.

Rob