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Originally Posted by geminigrey  Honestly, I think she's more comfortable with the idea of having one-on-one with someone she's built up a friendship with |
I'm going to rain on this thread a bit.
When I read this my first thought is 'Divorce in 2 years tops'.
Someone new inspires those sort of crazy 'in love' feeling you don't get from your current spouse that you have been with for years. They are more fun to be with because of this, you just don't seem as fun, and he wants to get married and see the world with her or some such.
'Honey its not you its me, I don't know what I want any more, I need time alone. blah blah.'
'Translation, I have more fun with him, see ya.'
Finding stats on this stuff isn't easy but from what I've gathered open marriages have very low success rates, too much appart and the marriage seems to become less of a loving intimate marriage and more of a friends/business associate type of thing.
I can't say I have personal experience with this, but the only two open marriages I knew of both quickly failed.
I think swinging does work long term because its a 'together' thing, a shared experiance. Even when couples play alone it tends to be with people they already know together. Its a bit different than 'Honey I met this great guy today, don't wait up.'
Like all things sexual I'm sure for some this can work and still maintain a real to death do us part marriage, but I don't like the odds.