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I don't think this is really a newbie issue, if someone is going to be intentionally deceptive and scheming they could have sucked in a very experienced couple just as well.


99% of the time when we play we are the ones that have the room and we are the ones that determine who are interested and we are the ones that make the offer to play. Yes sometimes it would be nice to just be cute and flirty and let people come to us and do all the work and make us the offers but when you are the ones that are making the offer you are the one in the drivers seat and are under control of all the conditions rather than if you are accepting someone elses offer.


Let's break this down, they made the offer to your wife without any recognition that you existed..red Flag. When your wife asked about you, the wife said she'd "take care of you" but had you actually met her or developed any rapport with her? Not a real red flag per se but it is highly unusual that a female will agree to have sex with someone elses husband sight-unseen. Then when the got you to their room they physically separated you two without any prior discussion of playing separately..another red flag.

Like I said before if someone is really devious and skilled they could have pulled that one over on any of us. However if you two had worked together and schmoozed a couple of your choosing together and made the offer to another couple to come to your room then you could have determined the conditions and scenario as opposed to following their lead.

With this approach you will get rejected a lot more but you are doing things on your terms. Be the fisherman and not the fish. And definately do not be the worm.