[TNT]

After reading over this numerous times I see the whole incident as a big failure at communication. No where did I see that the four of you discussed what everyone's expectations of the night were.

What would you have done if you found yourself in that situation?

If I find myself in any situation I'm not comfortable in...I remove myself from it.

What should I have done? What should I do if it looked like a similar situation was developing again?

I'm going to point out some points in the evening that if they had been handled differently, the evening might have gone more to your liking.

Originally Posted by HiMileageJim

My wife asked "what about my husband?" and the other wife said "I'll take care of him."

Your wife could have asked for clarification...How are you going to take care of him?

Upon entering their suite, the other wife took my wife's hand and led her into the adjoining bedroom and her husband followed them into the bedroom.

Why didn't you follow them in? You could have. This would have been a good opportunity for all to have sat on the bed together and discuss expectations.

The other wife came back into the living room and closed the French doors behind her. She undressed down to a sexy black teddy and poured herself another vodka and 7 Up and joined me on the couch. We had just met them and she told me they had a young son and they didn't get with other couples very often. She told me she had recently had a boob job which she was very proud of and wanted me to see them. Baring her breasts she invited me to touch and feel. She didn't have any scars from the surgery and explained the surgeon had made the incisions in her arm pits.

She said she wanted a cigarette and we went out on the balcony. She sat in my lap and talked and I caressed her and felt her breasts as she smoked. We went back inside and started kissing. About then I could hear my wife through the bedroom door making love noises as her partner was getting her close. I thought she's having a good time and soon she had her first orgasm. My partner decided she needed another drink and insisted on going to get more ice herself. She went out in her black teddy and was gone a long time.

It's possible that during this time she was waiting for you to make a more aggressive move.

I sat on the couch and listened to my wife in the next room moaning, talking nasty and having orgasm after orgasm. I got an erection just listening to her and knowing what a great lay she was.

You could have gotten up, opened the door, walked in and joined them. Since there was no discussion earlier in the evening as to the way everyone was expecting it to play out, and unless you had agreed that your wife and this man were going to play the whole evening alone, there's no reason you couldn't have joined them. After all, sitting there by yourself wasn't making you happy.

Her husband was fucking my wife's brains out while I sat by myself waiting "to be taken care of." By then I was really pissed off and neither of us were "in the mood."

The only good thing to come out of the experience was that my wife had a great time and and enjoyed being with the husband. That was possible because she didn't know what was going or -- or more particularly not going on -- in the other room.

It's great that you found something good out of a less than ideal situation. That's the important thing. Hindsight is 20/20 so don't beat yourself up over this. You've learned something and in future encounters you'll do better. Just remember, everyone needs to be on the same page and communicate with the other couple what your expectations are as well as their's.


Teresa