[socolais]

It looks like most folks quickly came to about the same conclusion based on the accounting of the events in the original post. I've played this scenario in my mind several times, mostly looking for some kind of way we can detect a similar situation unfolding in our laps and prevent the less than happy ending.

The other wife hasn't had an opportunity to tell her side of this story, and I'm wondering.... WHAT IF she came to the conclusion that there was a lack of chemistry between you and her. WHAT IF she didn't have the guts to tell you that she had changed her mind about fucking you. Perhaps the smokes and booze were her way of trying to develop the courage to say something - it just didn't happen. Perhaps the ice thing became her (chicken shit) way of avoiding confrontation.

I'm not saying her possible poor communication skills makes this all right, I'm just exploring alternative perspectives. Imagine how it might have changed your perception of the encounter IF she had said something like, "I think you're sweet and when I first saw you, I wanted you to fuck my brains out. But something inside me is telling me it's all wrong. I'm sorry, but I can't see myself having sex with you."