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Originally Posted by GatorVol I've always enjoyed your posts and attitudes. Your open marriage gives you some totally different vantage points to see things. |
Thank you. It provides a different perspective, and we are happy with the way we do things for the time being. Other times, it’s harder to participate as we don’t spend the majority of our “alternative time” doing straight-up swinging. But it works for us, and this Board is my best fit for interesting discussion of sexual alternatives.
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Do you and your spousal unit (I really like that) know the others friends with benefits? Or even friends with them yourselves?
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Thanks re: liking the Spousal Unit. I just have a weird quirk about using “my spouse” or “my husband”. I only say a version of “my spouse” about 10% of the time in any domain. However, using his name on the Board doesn’t quite feel right either. And the other two nicknames I use for them are worse.
One makes him want to puke although it’s fun to say it in front of people who will torture him mercilessly once they hear it; the other makes me look kind of mean, since it’s kind of sarcastic.
Anyway, where was I?
The Spousal Unit knows my friend, and I think they are casual friends, at a bare minimum. I think they like and respect each other, and they seem comfortable conversing and hanging out when we are all together. The spouse says that he is comfortable enough to hang out with our friend by himself if I wasn’t around or went off on my own, and they’d have a good time since he likes our friend’s company and conversation. Our friend has adapted well to the spouse’s sense of humor and his attitude and outlook, and seems to treat the Spousal Unit respectfully and in a friendly manner in return. Anyway, my spouse considers himself friends with my friend.
The Spousal Unit decided relatively he wanted to look into a similar arrangement for himself. Being a married male, he has a harder time meeting others. Right now, he’s been very lucky in my opinion; he’s had a lot of opportunity just basically fall into his lap recently. So, his possible friendship(s) are just developing and thus I’ve not met them, save for one. I’ve met her, she seems nice enough and it’s certainly respectful and polite, but we’ve not developed any friendship. There’s nothing wrong, but timing hasn’t worked out well to actually meet again, and it’s not necessary. Only time will tell on what happens on the spouse’s end and how any friendships might develop. At a bare minimum, I’d prefer to at least meet his friends, just like I would in vanilla life.
Can you tell I'm avoiding putting together the state taxes (it's done, I just need to assemble the W-2s, etc.) and cutting the check? I figure I have until 11:45 p.m. tomorrow to sign the check.