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Originally Posted by toomuchfun  The only way we could have been safer would be using condoms / dental dams during oral. |
That may be exactly how you ended up with it. Considering that HSV can transfer from the oral variety to the genital.... perhaps your partner just had oral herpes and wasn't (or maybe was) showing symptoms and you didn't realize it, they went down on one of you and transferred it. It's not just the pubic region you have to worry about.
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Originally Posted by tncinmd Julie, we don't understand what you're saying. Do you mean that everyone should give up swinging (well, maybe not soft swing) ? Toomuchfun specifically said that they always used condoms for penetration. Which seems to mean that short of wearing hazmat suits, it's a risk everyone takes all the time. From what I've read, the shedding involves the entire pubic region, which basically means condoms are only partially effective. |
I just don't think people stop to really think through these things enough. Not just with STDs but with the risks in general. I've watched so many people through the years say they can deal with the risks they are taking that it's all ok, until something happens then it's a completely different story. I realize that we don't know how we will handle anything until we are in that situation and I am the same. But, when it comes down to it, I just don't think people really think it through. They are stuck thinking "Oh it will never happen to me" and even when people post about the bad things that have happened to them as a result of taking this risk (not neccessarily STDs) too often people jump on them and assume they are a troll; I think they do this because they want to believe that these things don't really happen or can't happen to them. But, the reality is that if it can happen to someone else it can happen to ME, so when I believe that someone else's story is true, I have to then accept that that could be me in their shoes.