bellady welcome to the board!
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How do i handle this situation and get my husband to understand that I just don't like this woman?
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If you have been seeing them socially and/or in a business capacity for a few years and the other lady still hasn't 'grown on you'...then honestly I do not see that she ever will. I mean, if the other guy is an old buddy of his, then in a happy little world all the significant others of his friends would get along famously...but obviously this is not happening.
I have recently had this experience with a playmate of my sweetie. And his response to me saying, 'there's just something about her that rubs me the wrong way/makes me uncomfortable/insert your own phrasing here' is to tell me I don't know her and shouldn't make those kind of statements. True enough, but you know there are just some people you meet that do that for no 'good reason'. But you meet people that you have that reaction to even in vanilla life...they seem likeable enough, but for some reason you just don't. It's very hard to explain.
I think part of it is a personality clash with this other lady; being overly flirty, the way she dresses, etc. If you didn't like her before playing with them, of course you wouldn't like seeing your hubby play with her. How did it get to that point?
I think you are feeling a little obligated to continue to socialize with these folks, probably because of the long standing friendship between the men. Add in the business aspect and debt to them...wow...I agree with the others, try to pay it off as soon as you can so that level of 'obligation' is gone.
Good luck!