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***JustAskJulie*** · 04-13-2008, 10:06 AM

I see a few issues here that make this just a giant set of "don't do it".

1. The friendship thing.
2. The business partner thing
3. You owe them money (which makes you end up feeling like you owe them a lot more) - as they say the borrower is slave to the lender (I think it's in the bible or something).

Honestly, I think while for your husband the first two may play a bigger part because he is the one who is friends with the guy, I think you feel the power of the third one the most and you just don't want to ruffle feathers. Your husband may also feel that along with the business partner issue and thus want to make everything nice to keep from pissing anyone off.

I have to agree with NCMD in that the only way to take some of the pressure off at this point is to pay them what you owe them. Since they are friends you are still going to have to see them, but you don't HAVE to swing with them and I would make that clear to your husband that you are not interested in playing with them anymore. Even if you are ok with the guy and not the girl, they are a package (whether you like it or not). It's in your best interest to put distance where you can, even if it's not much.

04-13-2008, 10:06 AM	#4 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 21,508 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 53	Re: Just can't connect I see a few issues here that make this just a giant set of "don't do it". 1. The friendship thing. 2. The business partner thing 3. You owe them money (which makes you end up feeling like you owe them a lot more) - as they say the borrower is slave to the lender (I think it's in the bible or something). Honestly, I think while for your husband the first two may play a bigger part because he is the one who is friends with the guy, I think you feel the power of the third one the most and you just don't want to ruffle feathers. Your husband may also feel that along with the business partner issue and thus want to make everything nice to keep from pissing anyone off. I have to agree with NCMD in that the only way to take some of the pressure off at this point is to pay them what you owe them. Since they are friends you are still going to have to see them, but you don't HAVE to swing with them and I would make that clear to your husband that you are not interested in playing with them anymore. Even if you are ok with the guy and not the girl, they are a package (whether you like it or not). It's in your best interest to put distance where you can, even if it's not much.