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bellady · 04-13-2008, 09:23 AM

First the question: How do i handle this situation and get my husband to understand that I just don't like this woman?

Second, The situation: My husband and I were introduced to swinging by an old friend of his and his girlfriend. My husband has known his friend for a long time and has business dealings with him and we also owe him money...sigh...

. So we have to keep a good relationship with these people...I like the guy but not the girl. I do not mind hanging out with them but am always getting annoyed by her.
We did initially have a very soft sexual encounter with them but I did not like my husband playing with her and have made it clear to him I don't want to play with them. He is ok with that and we have managed to advoid that situation with them. She does say suggestive things to my husband, especially when she gets drunk. I know it is just sexual/flirting and that is ok because we are swingers but just with this particular girl It bothers me.

I have really tried to like this girl.. she is nice and hospitable, as they like to have people over to their house, so we are there often. But I just can't connect to her on a girlfriend level. She is hard to have a conversation with sometimes and I just can not talk to her like you would with another girl. She thinks the world of herself..just ask her, she will tell you... she is always dressed sexily, you see her ,you see her boobs.. no matter what we are doing. She is just too out there for me. We are very different people. For example, last night we were at there house and her neice and her boyfriend were there.. They are not swingers...Of course some innuendos were thrown around and at one point she said to the nieces boyfriend .." I could teach you a lot of things" She was getting suggestive towards him and I could see the neice getting upset. I don't blame her... They left shortly after that.

So the problem is that my husband says I should should get to know her better and that she is a nice person... we have been hanging around with them for a couple years now. I don't think we will get any closer or that I will change my mind. How do i make him understand my feelings? I don't want to stop seeing them. I just want him to be more sensitive to my feelings about her.
I am also looking for any suggestions on how to deal with her and not be so annoyed.

I am sorry this is so long I just wanted to explain the big picture here

04-13-2008, 09:23 AM	#1 (permalink)
bellady Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 24 Location: mass Status: couple	Just can't connect First the question: How do i handle this situation and get my husband to understand that I just don't like this woman? Second, The situation: My husband and I were introduced to swinging by an old friend of his and his girlfriend. My husband has known his friend for a long time and has business dealings with him and we also owe him money...sigh.... So we have to keep a good relationship with these people...I like the guy but not the girl. I do not mind hanging out with them but am always getting annoyed by her. We did initially have a very soft sexual encounter with them but I did not like my husband playing with her and have made it clear to him I don't want to play with them. He is ok with that and we have managed to advoid that situation with them. She does say suggestive things to my husband, especially when she gets drunk. I know it is just sexual/flirting and that is ok because we are swingers but just with this particular girl It bothers me. I have really tried to like this girl.. she is nice and hospitable, as they like to have people over to their house, so we are there often. But I just can't connect to her on a girlfriend level. She is hard to have a conversation with sometimes and I just can not talk to her like you would with another girl. She thinks the world of herself..just ask her, she will tell you... she is always dressed sexily, you see her ,you see her boobs.. no matter what we are doing. She is just too out there for me. We are very different people. For example, last night we were at there house and her neice and her boyfriend were there.. They are not swingers...Of course some innuendos were thrown around and at one point she said to the nieces boyfriend .." I could teach you a lot of things" She was getting suggestive towards him and I could see the neice getting upset. I don't blame her... They left shortly after that. So the problem is that my husband says I should should get to know her better and that she is a nice person... we have been hanging around with them for a couple years now. I don't think we will get any closer or that I will change my mind. How do i make him understand my feelings? I don't want to stop seeing them. I just want him to be more sensitive to my feelings about her. I am also looking for any suggestions on how to deal with her and not be so annoyed. I am sorry this is so long I just wanted to explain the big picture here Last edited by bellady : 04-13-2008 at 10:02 AM.