Hi 50s lady,
I am sorry to hear about your situation.
It really brings it home when you see a friend tell you that these problems are really out there. Stats mean nothing when you don't know anyone who has had to deal with these issues.
We have friends, who would remain our friends no matter what thier play situation becomes. Swinger friends are life long friends. I mean who else can you talk openly about this stuff with?
Your friend,
Prettylady