I have to agree with both Julie and Ciscosv.
In my opinion, you both made some mistakes and rules were broken. It does seem as though you gave him the go ahead to have a little fun if he wanted to. The fact that your boyfriend told you about it is commendable, that fact that he didn't use a condom is not. But it is done, it is over, you can't change it and you need to forgive and forget.
I don't like the fact that the woman of the other couple was encouraging your boyfriend to keep it a secret. That is most definitely a bigger issue in my eyes and not someone that I would want to be associated with. It sounds as though they have enough problems of their own, without drawing you into it. Major red flag couple.
Dump the couple, keep the boyfriend and move forward with your lives whether or not you decide to continue to swing. It sounds as if the two of you have been able to communicate well enough without pointing fingers.... a key to a good relationship.
Best of luck to you both. Oh yeah, if you do decide to continue to swing, if "you" aren't having fun, then it probably isn't fun for your boyfriend either. If you don't have an attraction to someone for whatever reason, don't do it for the sake of going with the flow.
Lori
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