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However, if it's a couple that we are close with it doesn't bother me. Or someone that I have gotten to know pretty well in general.
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It doesn't bother me either with people that we are close to. Both sexual or non. I don't think a thing about it and am actually quite used to it. I feel the same as when my hubby addresses me by name, I wonder what is up if they aren't referring to me by a "pet" name.
Our close non-sexual related friends all use a more intimate expression when addressing us. This to me though is acceptable because it was "earned" (for lack of better words) through trust and friendship.
We have a couple of sexual friends that now use certain terms when talking to us, as we do them, but that level of comfort had to be reached first.
I also do not have a problem with these sort of words being used in the throes of passion, even with new partners. The only real stopping block would be to hear someone say "I love you", instead of something like "I love how you do that", or "I love how you look in the candlelight". Saying "I love you" is personal, where as the other comments would express what they love about their own current experience.
Once you put the clothes back on though and enter back into the real world, to use the same words would offend me, unless we were close enough that it is acceptable.
Lori