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Old 04-08-2008, 09:18 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Default Re: How to Uninvite a couple

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Originally Posted by rdy46227 View Post
WHAT DOES "BI" HAVE TO DO WITH IT?!!!!

What you're assuming is that a professed bi male is going to attack other males and force himself upon them!!!!

Think about it. You're discriminating based on what he might do. There are a couple of words for this kind of behavior...

Please be Honest -- with yourself, and with the other couple!

All you need to do is talk to him before hand:

"As a point of information, many people attending this party will be upset if they see a male making an advance toward another male. Even a guy massaging or deliberately rubbing another guy is a turn-off for them."

If you're really paranoid, add:

"I know you don't want to offend anyone, and you respect their squicks. I'm sure I don't have to tell you to keep watch that your behavior doesn't spoil the evening for others."

If one can can honor "ask first" and "no means no", surely a person can honor "this behavior is restricted".

I'll give you two exceptions to this:
  • People ask to leave a previous affair for violating a rule (being too pushy, upsetting other guests, etc.) Cite the incident(s) for them.
  • People who's honesty you have substantial reason to question. Ask if they have an alternate explanation for what raised the red flag.
While it is a private matter between you and your "guest", and you will be talking to them in private, act as if the conversation is/will be public. Some day you may be on the receiving end of an un-vite (possibly based on incorrect rumors or facts) -- think how you would feel and act.
Among our friends there are not a lot of women who knowingly want to play with bi males. So its not just me and my not being comfortable around them. We invite straight and bi females and straight males. The females that go to our parties who play with men enjoy playing with me have stricly straight male behavior.

We just think that there is a portion of the lifestyle for this type of behavior and it is not mainstream swinging.
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