[JustAskJulie]

There's a big difference between a guy that is bi and a guy who tries to put the moves on other UNSUSPECTING straight men without warning. I got the impression from your post that one of these couples was the latter (but to be quite honest I'm not sure which one at this point), and that the other couple you just "heard" was bi.

If you have reports that anyone is doing anything to ANYONE else at a party without consent or permission then I think you have a right to not invite them and that they probably should be sent home with their toys. HOWEVER, I don't believe that the fact that a guy is bi or into bi play to any degree should be enough to uninvite him. As TNT said, that in and of itself is why so many couples with bi men (or even bi-curious men) keep their mouths closed. Instead of blocking them because you think or heard they are bi, why not give them a shot to show that they can be decent respectful human beings and understand that there is a time and a place for everything.

Personally, I think many bi women in the lifestyle are worse to deal with than any bi man. Most bi men are so scared of being outted and blackballed that they aren't likely to do ANYTHING near another man unless they know for sure he is ok with it, whereas too many bi women I've encountered assume every other woman in the room is bi. Once again that ugly double standard rears its head.