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Originally Posted by des1re06  So, what's the point of being "safe" when engaged in intercourse, if you're going to pass along the germs during oral anyway? |
I've been contemplating the same thing myself; if I or we do everything else, then why use a condom?
Yes, I can feasibly get any STD from oral, but the statistics are different, more in my favor to not contract a STD. Maybe it's just a panacea, but it does reduce risk, and that's what makes sex with other partners feasible to me - I reduced the risk to a tolerable level for me. Is it 100% safe? No. I know this, and I just try to minimize the odds until it's an acceptable risk whether it be just using condoms or declining to play altogether. If I didn't accept some risk, I'd be at home 24/7 watching American Idol and Dancing with the Stars off the DVR.
In the end, it still will come down to individual choice and preference. My personal stance is condom use or lack thereof is a based on risk tolerance in conjunction with trust of a partner. Given that many who swing approach it strictly from a position of casual sex, and relationship-building to earn or determine trust or relationship building to develop trust is not necessary or wanted, swingers either go without the trust and use a condom, or decide the risk is acceptable and go without a condom.
I may not understand people's choices, but I accept that others have a different risk stance than I do. My personal stance is that trusting people I don't know or just barely acquainted with falls in the realm of too risky and an unnecessary risk. Hell, trusting people period ends up being its own numerical factor in the risk calculation. Even if you do build a relationship and decide to trust someone in any number of contexts, they can still be acting a risky manner outside of your context and you may or may not know about it to factor it in.
So, that's one person's POV as to "what's the point", I guess. "What's the point" is going to have a gazillion answers, as "what's the point" ends up being solely a personal choice.
Rebecca
Who really shouldn't be near a keyboard this early in the a.m. without that second cup of coffee.