[lovelygirl2]

Wow I so need to hear the answer to this question!

We met a single guy a few months back and he and I have been getting very close. We talk on the phone daily and see each other twice a week usually.

I'm finding that I just don't have the same oomph for swinging that I used to. And it's causing issues.

Hubby does not have an OSO and is still very much interested in swinging. And on two recent occasions I've let him make a decision on a couple without giving my full opinion (which was negative) due to feeling like everything has been about me lately. Little bit of guilt I guess. Then the following morning felt awful about it, felt less towards myself because I did something I normally wouldn't have done. Which in turn made him feel bad that he inadvertently led me into a situation that made me uncomfortable.

I feel like I need to pull back from my boyfriend a bit, but at the same time don't want to. He makes me so happy. and having both guys just makes me feel complete in a way that I didn't have before.

Hubby is completely fine with my relationship with Boyfriend and they get along great. We've talked at length on my feeling with swinging and have agreed to pull back and talk more and that he is fine with me saying No and not doing something I'll regret later out of some feeling of owing him.

But I'm concerned that I don't have the desire anymore. And I want it back.