[Edison Carter]

Susan here-- Sex can be like politics where they say if you want a dear, good friend, buy a dog.

You are expecting wayyyyyy too much from people you hardly know. You are also expecting way too much personal validation from a casual sex partner. If you are courteous, engaging, think of others, consider your actions, show up on time, etc, I'll let you in on a little secret--you're in the minority. If you expect to be treated as well as you treat others, when these 'others' are quite random connections in your life, you are going to be really pissed off. Whoops, you are !

Reading your 'rant' it is apparent you are expecting a return on the emotional capital you invest in your sex partners. You should not be doing that. You're not picking out curtains together, you're getting laid. If you have a great time, that night, in that moment, you should leave it at that.

I have a friend who works as a film director. He had a really great first effort and spent three years looking for that perfect project. Finally his agent told him he needed to get back to directing a film, because not everything that came his way had to have been bad, he was getting way to selective to meet an expectation that was impossible.

He did finally get busy working again. I think the two of you need to go out, smile, have fun and fuck.