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Originally Posted by VegasLee  We swing for the sex. We have made friends but never go looking for them. There are very, very few people that we have had sex with that we had sex with them a second time. It was nothing personal or anything they said or did in most cases, we just are not looking to keep having sex with the same people. That is what we have each other for, regular sex that we love! 
There are people that we have had sex with that we see every weekend at the club that we have never had sex with again and some that we hook up with again maybe every six months or a year apart. It is new again and works for them and us. There has never been any hard feelings about not having sex when we see them or anything else. |
Exactly! This is our view of swinging and it works for us. It doesn't make swinging hard or too difficult. We aren't bound by one type of couple, and are only limited by our imagination. There are NO expectations and no hard feelings.
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Originally Posted by VegasLee Many are not going to want to be your "friends" and be there week after week or what ever . Many of those that do play want to play with others and new people when they can. |
I think this is true as well. It least it is where we are.
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Originally Posted by VegasLee Let it go and have some fun. Spell it out more just what you want on your profiles if you want to play the Internet game. Go to the clubs, get down to business and find what it is you want. Keep it simple. |
Again, very well said.
JandC, I might have read your whole post wrong, but it sounds like you're looking for something like a poly relationship. I'm not sure, but it just sounds like it to me. If I read your post right, something about keeping one certain couple for play all the time. It could even be you might want to find more couples just for play all the time. Not just a one time fling and maybe meet up again six months later and have another fling.
Dave and I have swing personalities more like VegasLee and his wife. We have no expectations when we meet a couple. Even if we think they're great and we think we match, they may not think that and we're ready for that. If that's the situation, that's OK. We don't fret and we don't dwell on it. We start again and look for that great couple. Not everyone is going to mesh. That's just life. We don't blame Swing Lifestyle for couples not writing back to us. That's people and maybe just their personality. Sometimes their lives are so busy, maybe they don't have time to write back or maybe they had a situation come up that doesn't allow them to get back in a timely fashion. We don't make swinging into a job. We swing on our terms, not anyone else's. When we want really great sex, we have sex with each other.
Just our $0.02.
Holly