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Originally Posted by VegasLee  After awhile I find us falling into that same trap at times. When you look at yourself, as I have at times I try to find every reason in the world why it is not working before I take a hard look in the mirror and see that reason is ME! From what everyone tells me that is human nature, look for fault in the Lifestyle or others rather then look at myself. I hate that and I hate it more when I find I am the one doing it.
Life and this Lifestyle are what you make of it, nothing more. I get in moods and have to really look at myself at times to find out why I am not making my life what I want it to be. Every time when I look hard enough I find I am the problem, not others around me. I wake up and don't allow the things going on around me to dictate what MY LIFE is going to be and all is well again.  |
That is so true. I remember one psych professor I had said that it is actually more psychologically healthy to blame things outside of yourself than to blame yourself for your shortcomings and weaknesses (less stress). Not that he was saying that was the right thing to do.
I do think most of us do that. I find often that I am the most stressed when there are things about me/ around me that I want to change and I know I'm the only one that can do it but I just haven't figured out HOW to do it yet. If I could just blame everyone else and say it's their fault nothing is changing, I'd be a lot less stressed out! LOL. But, in the end I know that I'm the only one that can change things.