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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie  Lee, can you be more specific... in the times you found swinging not working for you, what was it that you were doing that you found you needed to change? |
It was not so much that "swinging" in general was not working, it was that at times the sex part was not happening and after reviewing it, it was our own fault.
We would get sucked into that "social trap" that happens at many times. Sitting and hanging out with people we know. Sitting around talking, not exploring, not finding people to play with. Not keeping the right attitude about things in general.
I would sit there and listen to others we know complaining that nothing has been going on lately, they are not partying, just sitting back waiting for it to come to them and it was not happening. They are spending to much time complaining about things not happening but doing nothing to make anything happen.
After awhile I find us falling into that same trap at times. When you look at yourself, as I have at times I try to find every reason in the world why it is not working before I take a hard look in the mirror and see that reason is ME! From what everyone tells me that is human nature, look for fault in the Lifestyle or others rather then look at myself. I hate that and I hate it more when I find I am the one doing it.
Life and this Lifestyle are what you make of it, nothing more. I get in moods and have to really look at myself at times to find out why I am not making my life what I want it to be. Every time when I look hard enough I find I am the problem, not others around me. I wake up and don't allow the things going on around me to dictate what MY LIFE is going to be and all is well again.
