[LikeMinds321]

Hi JandCMI! Welcome back to posting. I've missed you and your flying dog. That is a beagle isn't it?

Everyone has frustrating moments in the lifestyle because things don't always go as we hope.

In some cases it's because you need to make some changes, and many times it's because people out there in SwingLand are going to be the way they're going to be, and you have to accept it; it comes down to how YOU decide to handle this fact. You can't change them but you can change how you react to them.

As Additude mentioned, your profile sends a message that you're not happy with what you've experienced. You sound jaded, angry, and you never want that to come across in your profile. It's a turn off to people and it's probably keeping the best in the bunch away from you, and instead, you're attracting people that have disappointed you. I suggest a rewrite.

I don't think you have to go to clubs to meet people. My take on you guys is that you're probably more comfortable being with one or two couples, just hanging loose and hitting it off. If large swinger environments (clubs) make you uneasy, don't go there. You have already tried that, you gave it a shot, and it's not you. That's okay. Focus on meeting people privately and maybe that will lead to another couple they know, and another, and then you'll find yourselves with a smaller group of swingers who find things to do together that doesn't involve clubs.

If swinging is feeling like too much work, take a break for a time. You can always go back again.

LM