JandCMI28,
Just my first impressions after reading your post(s) and gazing at your Swing Lifestyle profile. I offer constructive critism, absolutely from my layman experience...I be no professional critic by any means
Your Swing Lifestyle profile is all pretty specific, outlined, refined and defined, dot to dot to dot to.......
I think you may be looking for to much to fast. Lighten up a little, I have to say that to me yor Swing Lifestyle profile kinda sounds like you have a "Chip on your Shoulder". In the first paragraph...two references to "Bullshit" drama, games, stringing along.... I don't think that's a good way to start.....and not just the writing part, but the approach is wrong....especially in person.
How about "We are a no drama kind of couple, honest, straight forward, we don't play games and won't string you along".
So Chill bro
......your Swing Lifestyle profile says no drama.....but I read and see bunches of drama in your Swing Lifestyle writing.....and also in this thread.
In your second post you talk about not being into going to clubs and drinking beers all night and dancing, etc.... but other people are, maybe they go there to meet for sex, maybe they go there for the fun of it....maybe for both....but maybe that's where you gotta be to find what your looking for.
I just offer a suggestion for you to relax a little. I think your anticipation is getting the best of you. I can tell your an intelligent person, I think your allowing the logic of this get in the way of your reasoning....
OK, but you didn't ask for feedback on your profile and writing, etc.... I just thought I could help.
The lifestyle can be tough sometimes.....I hear what your saying, I know where your coming from.....but you might have to change if you want it to change.